Brutal but effective video from India

I want to be clear here: I found this video to hit some of my triggers. It’s intentional, in a sense, but it’s definitely not malicious. It hits hard because this is something that can be hard for people to get over, the idea that rape can be blamed on its victims. A group from India made this, and there is violence depicted in it (the presenter is physically assaulted in various simulated ways, and shows damage from it), but for all that, I think it’s very effective. But please do be aware of your self-care, because if you’re a survivor of rape or intimate abuse, there’s a reasonable chance this will push some buttons. In fact, it may push some buttons if you’re not a survivor.

I’m passing it along because I believe in its effectiveness, and because I think showing it to some of the men* in our lives might just have them thinking a bit about rape culture/apologia, and how hard it can be in our societies to avoid endorsing or condoning it.

It’s my fault.

Also, any comments having as their purpose the dismissal of the problem the video depicts as being “an Indian thing”, will be mocked, scorned, and banned, I guarantee it. Is it worth it?

ETA: Commenter Seize at Pharyngula (where I got this link – sorry, PeZd, didn’t mean to bogart your link) adds:

That film was arresting. For those of you lacking the context, the jewelry and ornate sari in the one cut are the cultural equivalent of a white dress with a veil.

I thought this bit of context might help make the point even more clearly. I had thought that moment was about how class is no protector. I also liked that some of the women at the end were older, or fat, or not conventionally attractive, helping to combat the idea that rape only happens to thin and pretty and young women. And I get why they didn’t have a man in there, because it would have been, for statistical reasons if nothing else, a very different message if a man looked at the camera and said “it’s my fault”: he would be assumed to be the attacker, rather than a victim himself.

* Note the qualifier: “some”. If it’s not about you, don’t make it about you. Also, please note that I do not disregard the existence of men who are survivors; the video does. But again, it’s not about men who are survivors, it’s about women being blamed for being raped. I think it’s incorrect when it says that “100% of rapes involve a woman”, and it’s fair to criticize it for that, absolutely. But its main message is one that has value, despite the problematic making-invisible of men who have been raped.

Comics about depression

Saw this at buzzfeed after a friend sent me the link in e-mail. I don’t know why I’m always shocked when i see that other people experience depression in ways that are so, so familiar to me. I guess it’s the nature of the problem, that I tend to think I’m all alone in far more ways than I actually am. 

comics that capture the frustrations of depression

Also, à propos de rien (ha! as if), I’ll try and get responses to your comments on the S1E2 SPN episode from yesterday, but I’m having a bad brain day. Those happen. Did read ’em, did enjoy ’em, can’t find my spoons is all. 

Some blogs I like

Well, it won’t be surprising if the first I mention is Shakesville, Liss McEwan’s fantastic site of feminism. Besides being a friend whom I value highly, Liss is one of the most cogent, incisive, and downright readable feminists I’ve ever read. I cannot number the things I have learned from her, from the other contributors, from the fabulous Shaker commentariat, or from the hundreds of links to excellent writing and writers I’ve found there: about rape culture, and fat hatred, and eliminationist behaviours, and the ongoing process of being a good ally. There is also an amazingly useful Feminism 101 section, with pointers to a wide range of topics, and lots of strong, insightful writing in it.

On the topic of racism and the fighting thereof, there are a myriad of good sites. Some of my favourites include The Gradient Lair, Racialicious, We Are Respectable Negroes, Angry Asian Man, and Colorlines.

For chronic pain and disability, there’s my fellow Ontarian Ania at Scribbles and Rants, Mitchell at Research to be Done, and Erin at geeky gimp. Definitely interested in more good writing here, if anyone’s got any good links.

I don’t have much in the way of good links about depression, particularly, largely because people who are in it tend not to be prolific writers, for self-evident reasons. Miri’s Brute Reason and Jen’s Blag Hag are both somewhat focused on depression, and both can be quite useful in terms of resources as well as good writing. 

Shining Artifact of the Past writes about the plight of asylum-seekers, particularly in the UK but also covering other countries and situations as they come up. 

I’m interested in any links you might have, particularly if they’re in not-English, even better if they’re in one of {French, German, Japanese, Russian, or Spanish}. Good writing that also lets me exercise my language skills will always have my interest.

Some links I nicked from Miri and some of my own

In a way, it’s Miri (the Professional Fun-Ruiner!) who has prodded me back to blogging, for which I’m endlessly grateful. But beyond that wonderful act, she also does these occasional link round-ups which are generally chock-full of more than your Recommended Daily Allowance of Vitamin GR (Good Reading).

Viz., these ones which I am blatantly stealing from her (but she has more than these, so read hers too!):

Male Atheists and White Knight Sexism from Libby Anne’s Love Joy Feminism (content note: sexism, misogyny, anti-religious bigotry);

Men Need Clothes, Women Need to Look Sexy in Clothes from Lisa Wade, PhD, at Sociological Images (content note: sexist imagery);

So You Think You May Have Been Blocked on Twitter from Mitchell Greenbaum at Research to be Done (content note: MRA talking points, amid a veritable lake of snarktacular sarcasm well-aimed at harassers);

Why You Need to Quit Calling Homophobes Closet Cases from Aoife at Consider the Tea Cosy (content note: homophobia, trans* gatekeeping);

1983 The Year That Almost Didn’t End from Marc Ambinder of The Compass (content note: nuclear war)

Saudi Arabia’s War on Witchcraft from Ryan Jacobs of The Atlantic magazine (content note: racism, misogyny, cruel legal punishment, capital punishment);

and last, but a long way from least,

A Little More on Diversity, Body Size & Lingerie by yogi (and friend) Torie from Anytime Yoga.

Some really good, interesting reading in there if you’ve got some time. Anyone got anything you think I should read? Drop a comment, I’m always up for more brainfood.